The Cozy Corner of Becoming
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The Cozy Corner of Becoming ✧
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Be.coming With Each Other, Part three: Gentle Check-Ins for Friendship
About an 5-minute read, just right for a cozy corner moment ◡̈
This is the third and final part of a friendship series that offers a collection of gentle, low-pressure reflection questions for use between friends, not as a formal check-in but as a small, intentional connection moment, over coffee, on a walk, through a voice note, or in the middle of an already warm conversation.
A somatic Perspective on Video games: How certain games can offer regulation, agency & quiet companionship
About a 5-minute read ◡̈
Video games can offer something meaningful, not as escape, and not as a solution, but as a form of nonverbal support that meets the body where it already is.
Complex Trauma: How CPTSD Forms + shapes the nervous system
About a 6-minute read
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) usually doesn’t come from one single event you can point to and say, that was it. For many people, it forms over time, through repeated experiences, often in childhood or close relationships, where safety, care, or belonging didn’t feel steady.
Mapping Your Nervous System: Polyvagal States, Attachment, and How Patterns Form
About an 7-minute read ◡̈
Polyvagal-informed work offers something different from more analysis or self-correction. It offers orientation, a way to understand how your nervous system learned to respond to the world, especially in relationship, and why those responses still show up today, not as flaws or failures, but as adaptations shaped by experience and protection.
Be.coming With Each Other, Part two: Being in Friendship Through Change
About an 6-minute read, just right for a cozy corner moment ◡̈
Friendships don’t stay static. They shift alongside our lives, our capacities, our health, our grief, our joy, and our seasons. Being in friendship through change isn’t about managing those shifts or getting them right. It’s about learning how to remain connected while allowing the relationship to move.
Friendship + Attachment: what Stranger Things teaches us about how friendship shapes connection over time
About an 8-minute read, just right for a cozy corner moment ◡̈
Over the span of the series, Stranger Things ultimately shows us not just survival, but change shaped slowly through relationship and time. Across years of fear, separation, repair, and reunion, we watch how consistent care reshapes what connection feels like. Attachment doesn’t hold one form forever. It widens as new experiences of being met are layered in.
Be.coming With Each Other, Part One: Why Friendship Matters
About an 8-minute read, just right for a cozy corner moment ◡̈
Friendships shape how we experience belonging, safety, and connection, often more than we realize. This blog explores why friendships matter, how they support regulation and identity, and what it can look like to stay connected as friendships change over time.
Dysregulation Isn’t Wrong: Honoring the Wisdom of the Nervous System
About a 7-minute read, just right for a cozy corner moment 📖
Most of us have been taught to see dysregulation as something to fix. But our survival states aren’t “bad”; they’re protective. Healing begins when we give them space, honor their wisdom, and gently build trust with our body’s rhythms.
Book + Podcast Recs
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Book + Podcast Recs ✧
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My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
The Body Remembers: The Psychophysiology of Trauma and Trauma Treatment by Babette Rothschild
The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mind-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole by Arielle Schwartz
Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Daily Life by Jamie Marich
The Pain We Carry: Healing from Complex PTSD for People of Color by Natalie Y. Gutiérrez
CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker
Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model by Richard Schwartz
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Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy by Jessica Fern
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
Feel It All: A Therapist’s Guide to Reimagining Your Relationship with Sex by Casey Tanner
Attachment Theory in Practice: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with Individuals, Couples, and Families by Sue Johnson
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Trauma Survivors: Strengthening Attachment Bonds by Susan Johnson
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Glimmers Journal: Reflect on the Small Moments That Bring You Joy, Safety, and Connection by Deb Dana
Polyvagal Prompts: Finding Connection and Joy through Guided Explorations by Deb Dana
Anchored: How to Befriend Your Nervous System Using Polyvagal Theory by Deb Dana
Polyvagal Exercises for Safety and Connection: 50 Client-Centered Practices by Deb Dana
The Polyvagal Flip Chart: Understanding the Science of Safety by Deb Dana
Somatic Internal Family Systems Therapy: Awareness, Breath, Resonance, Movement and Touch in Practice by Susan McConnell
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It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand by Megan Devine
How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief by Megan Devine
The Invisible Kingdom: Reimagining Chronic Illness by Meghan O’Rourke
What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma by Stephanie Foo
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Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge and the Teachings of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Decolonizing Therapy: Oppression, Historical Trauma, and Politicizing Your Practice by Jennifer Mullan
The Body Is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love by Sonya Renee Taylor